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This Saturday will mark the first week my slave has been in enforced chastity. To the left is one of a few photos he sent me. I say, "enforced", because I am the sole key holder of the chastity device. He can't slide this off, masturbate, and try to slip it back on.
In the past I've been approached by many males who wanted to attempt chastity. When it came down to it, keys were never sent, devices were never purchased, and I was one unhappy lady! It brings me great amusement and happiness to finally have someone come through. There are so many people who love the idea of this level of submission, but it was best kept to mental fantasy.
This slave's current assignment is to keep a journal for me. Since there are many misconceptions about chastity, I thought it would be a great opportunity to educate others if I posted his entries on a semi-regular basis. We'll see how this goes...
Here are some photos I shot with depix. The space had a great ambiance and I loved that anyone could stumble into our shoot! I think we may have left some lube trails behind...
Due to my busy schedule, I haven't had the time to check and respond to emails in a timely manner. When I do check emails, I get a load of the following:
Hi Natalya Sadici , I find now why this world a bad world is!
The People are not made intellect, intellectual create fault in think
of good is or not good!
GOD made people not with intellect of animal! a magic power tree wit
apple give people intellect, intellectual!
God made Earth and made Adam (men) and Eva (women) are good People!
GOD give people no intellect, intellectual! God they against Adam
and Eva, does not go of that tree eats with the apple if you will
there with of get you intellect, intellectual of people today!! (GOD
knew that when people got intellect, intellectual them people do
crazy thins!! but Eva were this way stupid ad eat of the apple! The
woman became beautiful and sexy and executes and adam now also of the
apple!
I kept out the name of the person who sent this to protect his identity. Hopefully all of you got a good laugh. When I get a lot of emails like this, I lose my desire to respond to emails in general. I apologize to those of you who haven't heard from me in a while.
This topic has come up often in conversations and I've decided to be blunt about my views. I do not allow physical release in sessions. Period. There is no jerking off while I go and wait for you in another room. For those of you who are curious as to my reasoning and logic, read on. If choking your chicken at the end of a delicious scene is an absolute necessity, then we're not meant to play together.
Here are my reasons:
1. I feel that as a submissive male, you should not expect me to watch you masturbate.
You can expect that I will keep you on your toes, create a session that explores both of our interests, demands a lot of you, and tests your limits without crossing them. I do not enjoy watching a submissive male pump his joy rod. Even if you claim, "I find it humiliating, Mistress!" I will not change my way of thinking. There are plenty of other ways I can humiliate you while amusing myself at the same time. I've also heard the following: "but I'm paying you" or the notorious, "but I've invested a lot of money in you, so why can't I have release?" This is all a form of manipulation. My desire to play in the professional realm is not motivated by money. Do you want a power exchange? That is what you are paying for when you have a session with a Pro Dom. You are giving your power to a Dominant Female. In this case I make the decisions.
2. If you expect to masturbate at the end of a session, you are not truly submissive.
This point goes along with the first one. I play with submissive males and females. What you can expect is listed above. Power exchanges are thoroughly negotiated. How and where you ejaculate is negotiation for your vanilla sex partners. Ejaculation should not end play time and that is what ends up happening if you are motivated to submit by orgasm. Submission should come from a deeper place than that dangling piece of flesh between your legs. Consequently, I am the one in charge. I am the one that says play time is over:)
3. There are deeper levels of BDSM play and ejaculation ruins this possibility.
I have played quite a bit both professionally and in my personal life. The most intense and rewarding scenes and sessions have been ones that did not include ejaculation. These experiences have resulted in an emotional release. As a close friend once told me, "a really great orgasm can be remembered for weeks and even months. An emotional release is an experience that will stay with you for the rest of your life."
The way male anatomy is set up results in a sudden drop in energy level after ejaculation. To achieve higher states of consciousness and deeper levels of play, you need to keep the energy flowing through your body. A power exchange is also an energy exchange. We fuel each other and become synergistic.
I desire to play at a different level and choose partners who have open minds. Fakir Musafar talks about intense sensations and if you ejaculate, you can't transcend. This is mentioned in the book, Modern Primitives. I highly recommend this book to those who are into varying states of consciousness and body modification.
4. Ejaculating too much ruins your health.
Do you ever feel pain or heaviness in your joints around lunch time? How about cloudy vision? Does your sleep feel restful? To create ejaculate takes energy. If you're ejaculating frequently, you're draining a lot of your energy reserves. In Asian medicine, ejaculation is literally spilling your seed of life. As you ejaculate, you become more and more depleted which can have varying negative effects on your body. However, it is possible to separate ejaculation from orgasm. Orgasming without ejaculating circulates positive healing energy throughout your body and invigorates you. This takes a lot of practice. For those of you who are interested in this, check out the Multi-Orgasmic Man by Mantak Chia.
Now, why do I care about this? Slaves, play partners, and clients who have high amounts of energy are more fun to play with and can carry out various tasks with ease. What use is a submissive who is too exhausted to carry out my commands? If you're fun, I want you to be healthy so we can play more often. Besides, during vanilla sex, you'll be able to please your female partners MUCH better, and who wouldn't want that? As a submissive male, pleasing females should be your top priority.
Here are some common misconceptions and rebuttals of my views:
1. I am anti-orgasm.
-If you read #4 above, you'll notice I'm very orgasm positive! Orgasms circulate energy and blood. They are also essential to health. Taoists have sexual positions to help certain ailments, and how wonderful is that? I believe that my sessions have a different value. By putting your body and mind into intense situations, you work different parts of your brain(the big one). You are forced to be 100% present in that moment. How much of your life do you spend wishing you were somewhere else doing something exciting? Too much. When was the last time you felt a sense of achievement that helped you get to know yourself better and explore new possibilities?
2. How do you end the session then?
-There are endless possibilities.
3. I am prude and have issues with male genitalia.
-Ha! If I had issues with male genitalia, I wouldn't enjoy CBT as much as I do! Someone who is prude wouldn't have a blog that talks about sex and BDSM.
4. Why should I pay to get beaten if there's no happy ending?
-Well, you're obviously not kinky or submissive so I wouldn't want to play with you in the first place.
5. As a Pro Dom you cater to men's fantasies. This includes their desire to jerk off at the end otherwise they won't have a good time.
-First of all, I do not "cater to a man's fantasies". I am not a service provider. I am in the business of power exchange which can include role play if I enjoy the roles. The people I play with share certain kinks with me. There are plenty of people who enjoy deeper levels of BDSM. When they are in their head space, ejaculation, and even orgasm, is the furthest thing from their minds. Submission and the head space that is possible are the driving forces to session.
My website is AGAIN having issues. If you have sent a client application to me, but have not heard from me in a few days, send an email to MistressNatalya@gmail.com. Make sure you include your name, contact information, interests, boundaries, health concerns, and experience level to me in your email.
Hopefully I can get this taken care of ASAP...
Planned Parenthood is mobilizing in response to the Supreme Court's reckless decision to uphold the federal abortion ban -- a ban that tells women that politicians, not doctors, will make their health care decisions for them.
In the aftermath of the U.S. Supreme Court's decision, I am joining with hundreds of thousands of people all across America who are standing together to declare that America won't stand for abortion bans that threaten women's health.
I urge you to please click the link below to learn how you can help too.
http://www.ppaction.org/campaign/planned
I was so upset by this, I wanted to start an action called, "No Sex, Just Beatings". It would urge all women to deny men sex until this decision is changed. We would thoroughly take CUNTROL of our sexuality-using vibrators, dildos, and engaging in sexual acts with other women only-while denying our male companions orgasms until things change. Perhaps, this would light the fire under men's asses to fight with us for our rights? I'm sick of seeing reports of male pro-life activists. How the hell would they ever know what a woman goes through during an unwanted pregnancy? How can a woman's life be of lesser value than a mass of cells or a fetus? Every time I see a male wearing a pro-life t-shirt, I want to castrate him.
London has a new sex theme park;) I nearly fell out of my chair laughing considering some of the conversations in my message board. There's a "spankometer"!
You have my permission to drool and plan a vacation to London...
Check out the article below:
http://www.thesun.co.uk
While traveling, I had time to reflect on a lot. Before my trip I had spent a lot of time talking to novices and friends in the scene who've had problems or bad experiences with BDSM. Some of these negative times were a result of poor communication, but many of them were a result of flat out disrespect. It angers me to no end to hear the following phrase, "if slaves can't take what I dish out, then fuck 'em." These words have come out of the mouths of many young novice dominatrix wannabes. Unfortunately, there's one person in particular who has said this and done more. Trampling kidneys and sending a person to the hospital because he, "never used his code word", is flat out unacceptable. It goes without saying that you should know better. This person is still a pro in the area. In my opinion, if you go into professional domination with this attitude, your attitude won't change. If you become a pro dom to manipulate people for money or to beat men for kicks, this should become clear to everyone.
What is my purpose in discussing this now? I've decided that being a "bigger person" does not include standing idly by while people are potentially harmed, dismembered, or worse. If I am "outed" in certain social circles as a result of this post, so be it. I do not condone scenes or sessions that are carried out without consent and result in emotional or physical harm. (i.e. harm is different than hurt in my book. Hurt can be yummy. Harm is not.) I will not promote or attend events, parties, or meetings that honor people who play with this blatant disregard of boundaries and common sense. Party promoters should research who they are about to honor. If they do not, I feel that they are a catalyst in promoting this behavior. It's called integrity people, and unfortunately, very few people have it.
For those of you who have read this far and would like to know who I'm talking about, email me at: MistressNatalya@gmail.com or PM me on my web board(www.natalyasadici.com)
I have two pieces of fetish clothing up on Ebay right now. The first is a purple and black Stormy leather corset. It has always been a little large on me even though it's a size medium. You can link to it here:
http://cgi.ebay.com/ws/eBayISAP
The second item is a short pair of leather chaps. They are missing a grommet so I'm starting the bidding very cheap. You can view them here:
http://cgi.ebay.com/ws/eBayISAP
Both of these items have been worn by me, so they can be an excellent prize for an adoring fan!
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