being blunt

While traveling, I had time to reflect on a lot. Before my trip I had spent a lot of time talking to novices and friends in the scene who've had problems or bad experiences with BDSM. Some of these negative times were a result of poor communication, but many of them were a result of flat out disrespect. It angers me to no end to hear the following phrase, "if slaves can't take what I dish out, then fuck 'em." These words have come out of the mouths of many young novice dominatrix wannabes. Unfortunately, there's one person in particular who has said this and done more. Trampling kidneys and sending a person to the hospital because he, "never used his code word", is flat out unacceptable. It goes without saying that you should know better. This person is still a pro in the area. In my opinion, if you go into professional domination with this attitude, your attitude won't change. If you become a pro dom to manipulate people for money or to beat men for kicks, this should become clear to everyone.

What is my purpose in discussing this now? I've decided that being a "bigger person" does not include standing idly by while people are potentially harmed, dismembered, or worse. If I am "outed" in certain social circles as a result of this post, so be it. I do not condone scenes or sessions that are carried out without consent and result in emotional or physical harm. (i.e. harm is different than hurt in my book. Hurt can be yummy. Harm is not.) I will not promote or attend events, parties, or meetings that honor people who play with this blatant disregard of boundaries and common sense. Party promoters should research who they are about to honor. If they do not, I feel that they are a catalyst in promoting this behavior. It's called integrity people, and unfortunately, very few people have it.

For those of you who have read this far and would like to know who I'm talking about, email me at: MistressNatalya@gmail.com or PM me on my web board(www.natalyasadici.com)