For the novices

Lately, I've been receiving many inquiries from novices. This is wonderful, as I enjoy training a "clean slate", but many of you boys need more information. So, from now on I'm going to direct novices to this post rather than rehashing the same stuff over and over again.

Ok, so you want to see a Pro Domina, right? There are things you need to do before contacting one. First of all, you need to know what your interests are and what you're hoping to get from sessions with a Pro Domina. I call this process self actualization or knowing thyself. As I've mentioned before, how can a Lady push your pervy buttons if you don't know what works for you? Do you hope to have some fun while acting out certain fantasies? Do you want to expand your pain threshold? Do you get off on serving a curvy rubber-clad woman? Ask yourself these questions. Determine the answers. If you need help understanding what certain activities are, do some research. Do not expect a Dom to explain all the abbreviations and lingo over the phone or through email. This is why we have blogs and people spend time making websites.
Here's a great start: www.prodomination.com

Now, that you've figured out your interests and intentions through reading books, websites, watching videos, jerking off, etc. what's next? Ahhhh...the research. Finding a Pro Domina is definitely a research project. If you spend the time and effort engaging yourself in this process, chances are you will have fabulous results. The biggest mistake I see males make is picking a Domina by looks only. At this point, I could write a book about all the mishaps and misunderstandings this course of action has caused people. Do not let your dick do the dialing. Sadly, there are many "strippers with whips" out there who have not spent time developing their craft. There are many websites with Pro Domina listings. You can even join message forums to see what other slaves say about "Goddess Likestotieyouup".

If you've found someone that seems wonderful, find her website. I cannot stress the following enough: READ HER WHOLE WEBSITE! Many of us have spent weeks, months, and even years fine tuning what our sites have to say. Trying to make sure we accurately state our protocol, interests, and portray what we do and do not offer takes a lot of time and energy. If you don't make the effort to read Her whole website, what does that say about you as a slave? It says you are lazy and don't care. Why would a Pro Domina spend the time and energy on someone who doesn't respect Her effort?

Another reason to READ HER WHOLE WEBSITE is because each Lady has Her own protocol for scheduling sessions. Due to location and a variety of other factors, We've found that some things work better than others. There are Ladies that work vanilla jobs, go to school, run other businesses, etc. Know that Our time is valuable. Follow Her protocol. I have spent a lot of time developing a client application on my site. The questions I ask are to gauge similar interests and if our personalities will match. I spend a lot of time emailing back and forth before I schedule a phone consultation and eventually a coffee/lunch outing. There is no way that I will speed up or change this process because you did not plan things out before visiting Chicago. Asking a Dom to change Her protocol to fit your needs/desires is a good way to be banned or ignored.

What happens next? There are so many things, my budding novice. One last thing before you're free to persue your journey...if you appreciate the time and energy your Domina has spent on you, giving a token of your appreciation is highly encouraged. Gift giving is another topic I will write about shortly. Until then, enjoy your risque research!