I will write a more detailed post about my traveling tales later, but there's something that's been on my mind for some time now. It's on the topic of clients and fulfilling your pervy desires no matter what the cost. There have been a number of things I've been approached with lately that I don't think are sane. One person in particular wants to session despite the inherent health risks.

My reasons for posting this are two fold. First, I want to bring attention to various situations and the risk-especially when not playing with an ethical and health aware Dom. Second, I want to discuss the ethics of receiving and requiring a deposit.

So, I've been asked to shove many unsanitary things up men's asses, do various types of play that would cause permanent harm to genitalia, and many other things. I have to ask myself, "do they know the risks? Is it my responsibility to point out what could go wrong?" Most of the time I would say, "yes"! I have pointed out the risks of permanent harm, but have been met with, "well so and so will do it in the suburbs..." Despite being met with opposition, I still feel it's necessary to point out risky behavior. I want people to live and play another day!

What I want to bring attention to is playing while having degenerative discs. If they are in the cervical area, sneezing could be a risky activity. Why would I want to whip or flog you if jerking the wrong way could paralyze you? If you're already having excruciating pain that's not being treated in your lower back and numbness due to this, why would I want to risk causing you more harm? Playing is NOT WORTH THE RISK. I don't care when your last session was. Go to a doctor. Go to a physical therapist. Seek medical attention. If you have already, follow their instructions and be careful.

The situation I'm speaking of was where a client decided to give me a deposit for a session. I had been responding to emails every day for weeks regarding this session. We met in public and we are definitely a good match to play! I had a lot of fun during our negotiations. I received the deposit and our session time came up quickly. Unfortunately, a few days before the session the client started having tingling and numbness in his arm that wouldn't go away. He finally went to a doctor and the degenerative discs were discovered. I kept in contact with him, but didn't receive a response as to the location of the discs in question right away. I let it be known that I would not risk his safety by sessioning at this time. I mentioned I would hold onto the deposit for another month considering the time span I've held onto it already...plus the email communication I've been keeping up. Today I received a lovely email telling me how I'm not understanding and am not honest. What is dishonest about holding onto a deposit for nearly three months and keeping in constant email communication? What is dishonest and not understanding regarding caring for a client's health?

As Doms we're constantly having to draw lines with our business. Yes, this is a business. My line is drawn at playing while risking paralyzing someone. The endorphin high is not worth the rest of a life in a wheelchair.

It's been a while since I've post here. My schedule has been filled with sessions, shooting more FemDom content, and getting ready for upcoming travels. As I type this, my latex is sprawled all around me. It's difficult to decide what is going to come with on my trip to DomCon in LA! I will be leaving Wednesday morning and coming back late Monday evening. It will be nice to get away for a little while and visit with many of the fine folks I only know through posting on Irene Boss's forum.

On another note, Mz Candyxxx and I have been shooting content for our separate video endeavors. I have a mountain of footage to edit, a new laptop to edit it on, and footage from when I worked with Violent Art Productions. I will be re-releasing that content as well as having more spanking, CBT, ball kicking, caning, latex, foot worship, and trampling videos. It's been a lot of hard work, but definitely worth it. I hope to open up a new video store in late June or early July. Stay tuned!

As though I don't have enough on my plate, I've been getting messages from people who run munches, but don't know much about BDSM. They have asked if I could either help out or point them in the right direction for information. I'm thinking of putting together a "Guide For Newbies". That way I can point people to one source of a bulk of information. This will take a while to put together, but I think it will be beneficial.

Hopefully all of you are well and warm.

Get ready...I will be a Guest Mistress at Vendela Zane's amazing Women of Discipline Studios in September! I know it's a way off, but I am extremely excited and honored to be a guest here. During my trip I will be sessioning, shooting video, and being interviewed for Vendela's YouTube channel. This will be a very special birthday month for me.

Vendela Zane also runs The Segreto Dello Zane BDSM B&B. Go to http://whipgirl.com/ for more information on this amazing woman! She is a force of nature!

For you stocking, foot, and corset lovers...I've just added four new images to www.natalyasadici.net!

Here's a little tease.

Last weekend I attended Lilith Grey's intensive which included classes on psychology and BDSM. We took a shorter version of the MBTI and discussed how different personality types function in the world. Lilith's class on difficult conversations was extremely valuable. There are so many classes on negotiations, but very little said about how to discuss difficult topics and situations. I also attended the kinky sign language class! I went in thinking it would helpful to have different signals when in a loud play space, but came out having a new appreciate of ASL. Thank you Lilith Grey!

In other news, I've started shooting videos again. This means I will have A LOT of editing to do, however, I'm excited about relaunching my personal clips4sale store. While I slowly get closer to getting a new MacBook Pro, I'm excited to have some fresh content to edit! So, again, if you'd like to help my fund in any way contact me about sending a donation. The sooner I get a new machine, the sooner I can crank out more hot Femdom and fetish action! Today we shot some ball busting and boot fetish clips. I've teamed up with Mz Candyxxx and I'm very proud of what we've been able to accomplish in our first shoot together.

Hopefully all of you are behaving yourselves and looking forward to spring as much as I am!

I received kaedo's first assignment the other day. I told him to write about what it means to be a pet. His essay was concise, descriptive, and personal. Enjoy!

What It Means to Me to Be a Pet

Being a pet is an honor that few people can understand and even fewer can experience. It is a feeling of belonging, of holding a certain place in someone’s heart and having a place to be, at the feet of a caring owner. It is a privilege, to be chosen for your strengths and be accepted for your weaknesses by someone who will help you push those strengths further and grow past those weaknesses. It is a gift, not to be squandered but to be cherished. It is an opportunity, to discover more about your chosen lifestyle and about yourself. It is a chance to better oneself through devotion and servitude.

Above all else, being a pet is a responsibility. A responsibility to present yourself in a way that honors your owner and flatters her. A responsibility to fulfill her wishes and carry out her orders precisely, and to accept the consequences of failure. A responsibility to learn and grow in ways that please your owner. A responsibility to give back, by supporting and encouraging your owner in all of her endeavours in every way possible. A responsibility to be the best pet, and the best person, you can possibly be.

Being a pet means a lot to me. It is so much more than being just a painslut, just a bottom, just a submissive as I have been in the past. It is those things and all that I have mentioned above: the honor, the belonging, the privilege, the gift, the opportunity, the responsibility. It is not something I will ever take lightly, or take for granted. Thank you, Domina, from the bottom of my heart, for making me your pet.

I will be attending DomCon LA on May 18th-23rd. My new pet, kaedo will be coming with me. This will be my first time traveling with a pet, actually. In the past I never had the time. The last DomCon I attended was with a kinky lover. I make the distinction because certain titles mean different things to me. While that is a whole subject entirely(and one we'll hear from kaedo on shortly), I feel it's worthy of mention here. Traveling with a submissive, pet, slave, or lover can be very different. I'm looking forward to playing, conversing, networking, playing more, going to classes, checking out the vendors, and playing! ;)

To get more information, go to www.domconla.com!

This morning I woke up to check my email. I found an email stating that I was written up on www.hogspy.com! This was regarding the launch of my new website. What a great way to wake up on a cold and dreary Chicago morning.

I've been adding some banners to FemDom sites and will eventually start adding banners to fellow Pro Dominants both in Chicago and elsewhere. Banners to fetish parties will eventually be added as well.

As my subject line reads, www.natalyasadici.net is finally live! I would like to thank Paul Natkin and Leon of Monkey Fetish for shooting with me and providing the photos. I will doing more shoots in the upcoming months with Paul and would also like to thank him for all his help on the site. Thank you Jim for helping with some of the coding issues.

Enjoy!

My new Pro Domina website is coming along quite nicely. I've decided to do it myself this time around! Perhaps it's the control freak in me. Though there is a steep learning curve for what I've been trying to do-and having no previous experience building sites-I'm determined to figure things out on my own. When I've gotten really stuck, I've asked for help. There's a certain sense of accomplishment in doing this!

So, the site hasn't been launched precisely when I wanted it to, but I'm very happy plugging away and keeping my nose to the grindstone. I will be announcing it's launch here then will be gradually taking this blog and transferring it to my site.

Stay tuned, and I hope all of you are staying warm, are in good health, and behaving!